I was having coffee with a friend of mine today, sharing with him some of the ways that I believe I need to change myself.
I was telling him how due to some recent difficult lessons, that I needed to adjust my behavior. This was going to be tough to do, I rationalized, because I had acted a certain way for a long time.
When he said this, it was like a lightning bolt had hit me. It was one of the most simple, yet accurate explanations of why people change I’ve ever heard. I spent the rest of today thinking about it.
When the payoff stops working, then – and only then – will we seek a new way. That is when real change happens.